PERSONAL LEGEND..

The recession is here to stay, I guess. And it has hit our stock market, the prices in the economy and Love. Well, yes love is also affected by the ‘mandi’ but it has not hit the bottom as our sensex. Its only the relationships that were based on the foundation of Diamonds, champagne and cruise [sigh!] are being subjected to the ‘mandi’.
But these are not the things that make a relationship strong, no matter how badly you wished so [but you all the truth]. For me, and for a lot like me, its something else that matters- a touch, a loving and caring touch. Despite of carrying the tag of ‘the money-minded generation’, almost, all of us would trade the aforementioned indulgences for that one touch without having to give it a second thought.

And now this might sound funny but all those ‘sissy’ things your mum does for your dad are actually ways of showing her love and an attempt to keep him happy. The secret behind their long relationship is the age-old formula of ‘bunty ke papa, sunte ho’ and ‘bunty ki maa, sunti ho’.

Gestures matter in love. FYI! They always did.
Nowadays, the art of wooing one’s love is now being transformed into a competition. But all this is merely on the surface, because deep down inside we all want to be cared in the simple way and we al want to be loved, just loved.

And now based on an EXTENSIVE survey, which included 3 men and 4 women, I present you a list of few gestures that we all would appreciate-
Well, the priority lust of women does not, necessarily, includes a honeymoon in Paris or credit cards of all the possible banks on the face of Earth, or a Pent house [open to reconsideration].
Even the most successful and independent woman wants to have a small world of her own, with her own.
# Shoe doesn’t linger for a Mercedes, but would rather prefer a flower wrapped in few nice words.
# Call her up from work just to say, “I love you” and hang up…
# Hold her hand and squeeze it gently, while gazing into her eyes.
# Open the door for her, pull a chair for her, make her bed tea and paint her nails sometimes.
# Swing your arms around her to tell everyone that the seat is taken, its okay to express your insecurity gals love the feeling of belonging to a man.
# Be there whenever she needs you and assure that every thing is gonna be alright [and if you can get Akshay Kumar to sing that for her, nothing like it]
# Wake her up in the middle if the night and sing to her- no matter how bad you are remember you are her Sonu Nigam or Eminem.
# Sympathies her whenever there is a twist in the age-old daily soap of her choice, like when the 4th or 5th husband of the ‘pyaari bahu’ dies and her childhood love is also slipping away. She needs a shoulder to cry on, so be ready with a lot of tissues, a disprin and a pair if ear plugs.
# Take a lil pain and write ‘Love Notes’ for her. [All those who do NOT know how to write ‘em just lemme know and I’d love to play the part of the naughty Cupid in your love life- Yikes! Did I just write ‘naughty’? I guess I did. Well, I meant sweet, caring, loving and… whatsoever].

Phew! Enough of the insight in a woman’s head. Can’t tell you everything because we want men to come up with innovative ideas to sweep us off our feet [add this one on the list as well]
Now lets pry into the brains of the sweet cowboys [how oxymoronic!]
Well, men were not really ready to publicly admit that they too want to be pampered. But times have changed and today’s metro sexual man is more then willing to share his emotions.
Now, guys want that their lady love should try not to come in between him and his first love- its his Car in ‘most’ of the cases.
And ladies your man would love to be pampered- so go ahead oil his hair without him begging you to do so.
# Drive him to a corner and steal a kiss.
# Call him up and ask him out on an ‘Official Date’, irrespective of the number of years you’ve been together.
# Pay him a surprise visit in the office. [CAUTION- do not overdo this one unless you are stalking him or something]
# When in public just steal a moment and wink at him or blow him a kiss, then see him turning pink.
# Try to get along with his ‘mummy ji’
# Sit with him through pout the ball game [you don’t understand a thing??? BIG DEAL]
# Even if you were champion of the colony-level snooker, let him teach you his moves, PUN intended!
# Have his coat ready at the gate and don’t let him go out unless he pays the tax [I mean a KISS].
# Tie his hands at his back and serve him with your hands, I meant the food
# And let him cry if he wants to, and mother him whenever he does so…


So it necessarily not be big gifts or heavy words to express one’s love. Small things matter! Right from ‘bunty ke papa’ to ‘taxing’, they matter the most.
So size doesn’t matters1


P.S.- We still love to be showered by gifts, just let the recession pass.